So I’ve heard it said that older siblings are trail blazers. I don’t think I really understood that until today.
I am not an older sibling. I am the baby of the family, and I married the baby of another family (I know that statistically this paring was supposed to be problematic, but we’re the exception to the rule).
So when it comes to being a leader it’s kind of weird for me. I don’t just make decisions, I gather information and opinions before making most any move.
Let’s face it the most trail blazing moment of my growing up was deciding that I liked New Wave better than Country Rock, and that probably still baffles my brothers. Sorry guys–I had to rebel a little didn’t I?
No, for most of my life I’ve been going where my brothers have already tread–or alternately avoiding things that tripped them up. Either way it has been a life of observing and following.
Today though my wife asked me to give her some advice that she could pass along to someone older in a position of authority. Boy did I feel out of place! It’s not that I think my position is wrong. Nor did I think that what I had to offer is in any way confrontational–it’s simply offered as advice. But I’m not used to giving advice to people who are older than me, particularly when I have always viewed them with a type of awe and reverence.
But I’m 50 now. There are a lot of people younger than me that I have given advice to. But because of my familial situation I imagine that my advice often comes off as wishy-washy to them. My notes of advice often have statements in them like: “…on the other hand…” and “…just my opinion, you understand…”
Well, that’s all I wanted to say today. Just stunned by a moment when I was asked to advise someone older than me, someone in a position of authority. Now I’ll have to see how the whole thing turns out.